I’m sure just about everyone in a moment of boredom or whatever has taken an online quiz or answered questions to find out something about themselves. There’s the BDSM test, of course. The Myers-Briggs test. You know what’s popular here in profiles.

A while back I decided to take an online Asperger’s test to determine if one is on the spectrum. There are several tests and after taking one test I had to take another just to see if I’d get similar results.

The Asperger’s test was interesting because I don’t really think I’m on the spectrum even though I have elements to my personality that may be markers. There has been so much recently in media and news that these markers or behaviors are pretty well known. When taking these tests if one wants a high score it usually isn’t that hard to get a high score. Similarly, if one doesn’t want to score high that’s not a problem either.

The thing is I’m taking the test and I’m trying to be honest in my answers, though honest is hard for a number of reasons, and I’m thinking my partner if she took this test would give many of the same answers I was giving. We’re so much alike.

Honest answers are hard because I’m not the same person now as I was when I was 18, or when I was 35, or when I was 50. Many of my social behaviors are learned by watching and study and the social person at 18 didn’t have the experience that the social person had at 50. The 18-year-old couldn’t bear to be touched; the person I’ve been since then thrives on touch. A friend back then said that he worried about me until he realized I was the center of every group I was in.

So I took the test and scored highish, 39. I can’t remember the cutoff, it was maybe 33. Above the cutoff point it was suggested that the scorer see a professional et cetera. A second test on another site had a similar result.

Anyway, the test was a lark and I got my partner to take the test. I was expecting her to get similar results, but her score was 11. I was trying to figure out why her score was so different; she was pissed at me because I didn’t know her as well as she thought.

What it came down to was our collective score was fifty and that’s a good number. Five and multiples of five have always been favorites for me and fifty is solid. Like our relationship which is based on balance. We complement each other in so many ways. Working together we have accomplished so much.